RMweb Gold PhilH Posted November 21, 2012 RMweb Gold Share Posted November 21, 2012 Evening, hope all are well. I've just got back from checking out some sheltered housing for my mother who, also, is suffering from dementia as well as being the proud owner of various replacement bits in her body all of which means that her capacity for self sustenance is virtually nil now, she just can't look after herself anymore. I wasn't looking forward to scoping the place, but was gratified to find that it will be exactly right for her, enough independence to satisfy her free spirit but care and company when she wants it. Just have to convince her now. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
gordon s Posted November 21, 2012 Share Posted November 21, 2012 Fingers crossed for you Phil. My mother will be 90 in a week or so and moving her into a sheltered home was the best thing we did. Fortunately she is not showing signs of dementia and is reasonably well for her age, although a little unsteady on her feet. I know it's not the same as a nursing home but has similar benefits. She is safe and secure and staff are on call 24 hours a day. She has her own flat, yet can enjoy company in the communal lounge and restaurant if she wants. They have some form of entertainment once a week and all in all she does seem happy there with no garden to care for, no stairs to climb, full support if needed and company of friends and neighbours who are all in a similar situation. It took a while to convince her to leave the house she shared with my father for 50 years, but she has accepted it was the best thing for her to do. 4 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Premium Sidecar Racer Posted November 21, 2012 RMweb Premium Share Posted November 21, 2012 Good luck Phil , I was quite lucky in that I did'nt have to do any persuading , my Mum had been on numerous tablets for a whole range of problems and sometimes forgot to take them or took two lots in one day such was her memory , not really dementia but just forgetful . She was also finding the daily grind getting harder and very tiring I was doing shift work and trying to keep as good an eye on her as possible and doing all the good son things like helping with shopping and so on but it was also taking a toll on me . After a few spells in hospital with minor problems she would come home quite fit but after few days she was struggling again to look after herself properly , so I suggested that she needed a good break and as she could not ' go away ' for a holiday why not have a few weeks in one of the local residential homes , this would gve her a good break from all the day to day things that she was struggling with. We got a room at one of the seafront places here where she could get her meals all done for her , there were people to mix with yet she could still go out if she wanted to . She spent three weeks there and came home looking fit and well , she then said that as she liked it so much she had decided to sell the bungalow and move in there . I know it sounds bad but inside I whooped with joy . I had not been looking forward to being where you are now but I knew it had to come , her decision took that load away . It took three weeks before we could get her a permanant place and in that time she had really gone backwards in her general health just doing the day to day things . Once she was installed she became much happier in herself and was well looked after , sadly she passed away a couple of years later with a recurrance of cancer , but I think this would have been sooner had she not moved . I sincerely hope that you can persuade your Mum that it has to be for the best . Maybe you could try something similar . 6 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
trisonic Posted November 21, 2012 Share Posted November 21, 2012 Funeral on Staten Island went as well as could be expected. Internment helped by US Marine Honour Guard including bugler who played a very sensitive and dynamic version of "The Last Post" - very moving. Raw emotions on display gave me a migraine though. Small price to pay... Best, Pete. 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Premium NGT6 1315 Posted November 22, 2012 RMweb Premium Share Posted November 22, 2012 Morning all... Just wanted to say hi before leaving the house, so I'll save any more elaborate postings for later. Pea souper style fog outside, too. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
DonBradley Posted November 22, 2012 Share Posted November 22, 2012 Hi all. A depressing start to the day! S.A. playing a cricket test against Australia. Australia batting extremely well at 9rpo. Two of our front line bowlers out injured! On the home front it was a chilly night requiring a blanket again. Now a bright blue, sunny, cloudless sky but a forecast max of only 23C. I have just doled out my pills for the day; 12 after breakfast but only 3 tonight! I rattle! Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
travelintrev Posted November 22, 2012 Share Posted November 22, 2012 Good Morning all, not much to report from this part of the world this morning, but who's to say what "excitement" the day may bring for us? The talk the other day of ice in the inside of bedroom windows got me thinking of the school milk (1/3pint) bottles that had to be thawed out on top of the radiators in the classroom.... Try and have a good a day a possible, Trev Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Gold grandadbob Posted November 22, 2012 RMweb Gold Share Posted November 22, 2012 Morning All. Rain now stopped -slight breeze & 11oC. It may become sunny later and warm up to 13oC !!!! A foraging mission is planned today for food etc and more importantly beer. I have just noticed that I've only got about 3/4 days supply left!! This is of course a completely unacceptable situation as you never know-some idiot in power may decide that we're only allowed 1 unit a fortnight & decide to ration it. (Pessimistic hat on today) Bob Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robert Posted November 22, 2012 Share Posted November 22, 2012 Morning All, It is a thoroughly depressing morning here - grey, damp and foggy. I think I must be suffering from a Winter depression at the moment! Have a good day everyone... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Torr Giffard LSWR 1951-71 Posted November 22, 2012 Share Posted November 22, 2012 Good Morning all, The talk the other day of ice in the inside of bedroom windows got me thinking of the school milk (1/3pint) bottles that had to be thawed out on top of the radiators in the classroom.... Trev ...that takes me back to primary school days with, conversely, warm milk in the summer months on the brink of going off due to the heat. For some reason I volunteered to be one of the sick monitors too....going to various classrooms with a bucket of sawdust and a small shovel to remove the offending deposit. Mind you, it probably helped when we disected the real cow eyes to remove the clear round lens in the science lessons. Try and enjoy your breakfast all Dave 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Premium AndyB Posted November 22, 2012 RMweb Premium Share Posted November 22, 2012 Morning all, Too dark to see what the weather is, but I'm assuming "rain" will be on the menu. But on the plus side the heating works here - more than can be said for a community in Queens who are still without electricity and trying to find ways to keep their homes warm. Thoughts are with all those with family and friends who are slipping away. I think 2012 will be remembered by many of us because of personal losses. Let's hope for brighter things in 2013 knowing that our loved ones are at peace. Andy 5 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Premium skipepsi Posted November 22, 2012 RMweb Premium Share Posted November 22, 2012 Morning all, feeling more sprightly today, must rush off and do something. OK it looks wet and cold out there maybe I will look for a jumper first! Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
trisonic Posted November 22, 2012 Share Posted November 22, 2012 Don't forget your trousers, Mick. You may stretch your jumper, otherwise... Best, Pete. 3 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Gold grandadbob Posted November 22, 2012 RMweb Gold Share Posted November 22, 2012 Just realised what today is so "Happy Thanksgiving" to all our friends across the pond and hope that all those still suffering from the aftermath of Sandy soon get their lives back together again. 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Gold beast66606 Posted November 22, 2012 RMweb Gold Share Posted November 22, 2012 Morning all. A nice sunrise in Norfolk at the moment. Off to the doctors for the vampires to take some of my blood, so working at home today. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Gold Tony_S Posted November 22, 2012 RMweb Gold Share Posted November 22, 2012 Morning all. Cloudy but warm here. I enjoyed the trip to Chelmsford last night. I can confirm that school trips to the theatre still exist. I think I had a few suggestions for ways to occupy myself today. It was dark when Aditi set off (early start as she is Duty Principal) this morning. I think the light may have erased my memory (well that bit that stores tasks). Tony Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Premium southern42 Posted November 22, 2012 RMweb Premium Share Posted November 22, 2012 Good morning and Happy Thanksgiving (thanks for the reminder, grandadbob). Another dark grey, wet and windy day but don't let that ruin yours Nothiing special to report but sorry to hear about your batsmen, DonBradley. Hope it doesn't affect the team's game. Time honoured game in my family (I got to Lords, once, on a really hot day sunny day and even filled out the score sheet for the first, and only time, to boot - not too big a deal cos I used to umpire tennis in my school days and had score sheets then). Oh dear, hope I've not started something....didn't think I had anything to say, this morning. Ah, well....The worlds ER's full of surprises. Enjoy your day and look forward to all your news .... 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ashcombe Posted November 22, 2012 Share Posted November 22, 2012 Morning all. Cloudy but warm here. I enjoyed the trip to Chelmsford last night. I can confirm that school trips to the theatre still exist. I think I had a few suggestions for ways to occupy myself today. It was dark when Aditi set off (early start as she is Duty Principal) this morning. I think the light may have erased my memory (well that bit that stores tasks). Tony So one can have selective memory loss as well as selective hearing loss? Anyway, good morning all! Happy Thanksgiving to those who celebrate it. My recollection of this event when we lived in Michigan ('71/72) was of it being a big meal with friends/family. Pumpkin pie was part of it. A bit like Christmas dinner sans pressies! Squally showers here and still windy. Hope everyone has a good day. 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Premium brushman47544 Posted November 22, 2012 RMweb Premium Share Posted November 22, 2012 (edited) Squally showers here and still windy. Saw the pictures of the flooding on the net down in Somerset and Devon. Hope you're not affected, or others reading this. Something certainly seems to have changed in the UK's weather this year. Here in Lisbon the sun is shining but it's cold - we'll I feel cold anyway. Have a good day everyone. Edited November 22, 2012 by brushman47544 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
DDolfelin Posted November 22, 2012 Share Posted November 22, 2012 "We`re going all Magyar for our supper" At least you won't have been hungary after. 5 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Gold Oldddudders Posted November 22, 2012 RMweb Gold Share Posted November 22, 2012 Morning all A lovely clear morning here, so I suppose I ought to be out and about enjoying it - and there are a myriad things to be doing. In practice I'll be off to feed the horses shortly, taking Varian's rug off as it's nice, but then back for coffee and more RMweb. I seem to have upset one or two people on a thread elsewhere here, by daring to support an RMweb stalwart who's managed to convince Network Rail to spend over £9m on a Devon branchline. More in real terms than has been spent on it in over a century, so the man deserves a gong! Others feel track renewals aren't much of a coup, but in fact track is the bedrock of everything on the railway. Probably need to do a mini-shop at some stage. Enjoy your day, each! 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ashcombe Posted November 22, 2012 Share Posted November 22, 2012 Saw the pictures of the flooding on the net down in Somerset and Devon. Hope you're not affected, or others reading this. Something certainly seems to have changed in the UK's weather this year. Here in Lisbon the sun is shining but it's cold - we'll I feel cold anyway. Have a good day everyone. Our house is set quite high up at the top of a valley (wind but not floods!) so we're OK, thanks. We won't discuss the greenhouse any more! Coincidentally, we've booked a five day break in Lisbon in January. If you are local, perhaps you'd be kind enough to suggest a few sights worth visiting. O/H sent off for a guide book from Amazon but it was in black and white, published in 1928! 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Gold Donw Posted November 22, 2012 RMweb Gold Share Posted November 22, 2012 Morning all, a bit late as I had to go early with the dogs as we are expecting a delivery unfortunately more DIY not trains. Very windy but mild with a bit of sun. The bridge at templecombe shown on the news was a bit of a surprise. A blocked culvert somewhere? Don Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Gold Tony_S Posted November 22, 2012 RMweb Gold Share Posted November 22, 2012 My memory has been jogged. There are a number of small heaps of washing ready sorted for the machine where not even I could miss them. I also had a text sent to me. I may have some shopping to do as Aditi's sister is coming tomorrow for afternoon tea while her husband gets some therapy somewhere near here. The shopping is in case they stay for dinner. In answer to Andrew's query about Grey Cup parties, Matthew said he is going to Edmonton on Saturday (shopping?). Other news. It is really sunny here now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
DDolfelin Posted November 22, 2012 Share Posted November 22, 2012 Here you go, Ashers - may be of help. Recommend the Port. http://www.visitlisboa.com/Conteudos/Menu-Principal/Home.aspx?lang=en-GB 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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